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Singles in America
Full dataset
- 73% believe love can last forever
- 71% core values should be discussed in the first few dates
- 68% of Gen-Z are interested in marriage, but only 49% want kids
- 64% of Gen Z say “vanilla sex” is a dealbreaker
- 1 in 4 are using AI to filter matches, write messages, or reflect on dating habits
- 90% of single say sexual chemistry is crucial
- 25% have dated someone 10+ years younger (Men 32%, Women 19%)
- 34% have dated someone 10+ years older (Men 30%, Women 38%)
- 49% of Gen Z has used AI for dating, more than any other generation.
- Millennials Romantic Adventurers - 52% feel left behind in their goals. Millennials use dating apps the most (52%), and they are most likely to use multiple dating strategies (apps, social events, and matchmaking).
- (62%) Millennials take home the participation trophy for having the most sex of any generation and have highest horniest levels to match.
- 60% believe in love at first sight, an uptick from 34% in 2014 with 47% claiming to have experienced it firsthand (more men than women)
- 73% believe romantic love can last forever.
- 69% believe in destiny
- 60% identify as romantic (men 63%, women 58%)
- Top traits (kindness and empathy, physical attraction, shared values)
- 51% think there is one perfect match out there for them.
AI
- 16% have interacted with an AI as a romantic companion(33% Gen Z, 23% millennial)
- 26% use AI in dating (Gen Z- 49%)
- 11% for profiles, 10% for first messages
- 44% want AI to help filter matches
- 26% say AI made dating easier
- 40% say having an AI boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating
Thoughts
On some of these open answers there’s notable Focal Point - Schelling point. Here asking how much is paid monthly on dating.
The Pew Research Center, in an analysis of census data, found that as of 2019, 38 percent of adults were unpartnered—that is, not married or living with a partner—compared with 29 percent in 1990. In a survey Pew conducted that same year, half of single adults said they were not seeking dates.
4B movement
4B or “Four Nos” movement is a radical feminist movement that originated in South Korea. The name refers to the four tenets: do not date men, marry men, have sex with men, or have children with men.
In Pew’s 2019 survey, 75 percent of respondents said that finding a date in the past year had been difficult, and 67 percent said that their dating life wasn’t going well. Among the people who said dating had gotten harder in the past 10 years, women were twice as likely as men to say that it now involved more risk—both physical and emotional. In 2022, Pew found that women were 9 percent less likely than men to report positive experiences with online dating.
Love at First Sight
“Singles in America” survey—conducted annually by the dating company Match and the Kinsey Institute, and released today—found something surprising: Of the roughly 5,000 single American adults polled, 60 percent said they believe in love at first sight, a nearly 30 percent increase from 2014. Almost half of the respondents (people ages 18 to 98, from all over the country) said they’d experienced the phenomenon themselves.
The slow burn has become less common, in exchange for rapid fire romantic judgements. “We knew right away.”
Eastwick has found that some people do feel strongly about a romantic prospect from the get-go: if not at first glance, then straight from the point of a first conversation. And when things click, he said, those feelings can run deeper than physical attraction.
About a fifth of people said they’d been smitten upon meeting; they’d felt an instant bond, found some niche shared interest, couldn’t stop talking.
Online dating may have primed people to expect too much too soon, but at least it hasn’t destroyed their romantic idealism.