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I recall when my sister was proposed to, I questioned the fact that nobody saw it. She was away on vacation, and I was just alerted that she was proposed to and accepted it. As far as I know there was no record of it, in that it wasn’t filmed nor any of our family members present. Things changed just like that.
But I really actually appreciate this now. All of the proposals I see are all done up. They become a media project in itself, with the camera man and eager family lying in wait, ready to pounce. I understand that this is because they want it to be shared with family (so someone like me, would not be excluded) and maybe in more egotistical cases to show the world what they’ve achieved.
But I actually like the hidden proposal now. It depends on who you are proposing to, but I kind of feel if put in that situation I’d prefer it.
You have your time of living to share with someone, to the extent that you want to share it. For this brief moment, within the symbolic space of union, this quiet togetherness, it is just you and your partner.
No cameras. No extra eyes.
A moment that is immediately “lost”, but captured in both your memories only. The trees that watch the moment, quiet.
Experience of it, lives and dies in your bond.
Remember that day that you proposed to me?
I think that’s nice.